6.08.2011

Closure...

Closure (n): an often comforting or satisfying sense of finality; (n): the state of experiencing an emotional conclusion to a difficult life event.

Why am I defining closure? Because I think I finally got closure to something yesterday.  I may have briefly mentioned before, but before my relationship with H, I had been in a six year relationship.  I ended the relationship and it just ended *very* badly.  It was abrupt and we didn't talk for almost a year.  At that time I felt like things went left unanswered and that I didn't get closure.  Yes, I realize that since I am the one who called it off I shouldn't have needed closure....but I did. And I never got it.  Until last night.

Last night, I went to a celebratory dinner with my family for my sister graduating fifth grade! (woo hoo... bring on the middle school drama!) We went into the bar to have a pre-dinner drink and who do I see?  My ex's mother. Of course my parents and I said our hellos and caught up a bit... Not only did she say she missed me a great deal, BUT (wait for it) that she was waiting and holding out for me and my ex to get back together.  news flash: I told her that would not be in the cards.  Oh then to find out that my ex is in the restroom and eating dinner with her. UH WHOA...not prepared for THAT.  Y'all I seriously went into panic I'm-shaking-with-furiousity mode.  I ordered (and downed) a drink stat.  When he came out of the restroom I literally could only word "hello"... and that was it.  I couldn't force myself to say another word.  I have fully moved on and couldn't be happier, but seeing someone who hurt me so badly and whom our last words to each other were just...BAD... was odd.  They were leaving as we were coming in.  During dinner we exchanged a few text messages and he apologizing for being (for lack of better words) a dick, and saying congrats on my internship and that he was happy for me and glad I was doing well and happy.

Anyways, just from that small amount I think I finally received the closure I needed.  Closure is needed in almost every relationship that ends to some extent.  It comes in different forms and comes at often very odd times.  I'm not complaining though, I can now live my life knowing that I did the right thing in calling things off and live with no regrets.  The end (for those of you still reading this dramatic event!)


6 comments:

  1. Closure definitely helps a person move on. It's like the period you need to finish the last sentence of the last line in a book.

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  2. I'm in the process of moving on from a guy that I had an on and off relationship with for three years. I'm glad to hear you've found closure.. hopefully I can too!

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  3. Closure is amazing. so glad that it happened for you! That's not a fun situation, glad for you that it's over!!

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  4. Glad you're feeling better! I can relate, I dated a guy for over 4 years and then on an off for another year and a half after that..I ended things but they also ended very badly! About a year ago, I was out to dinner and ran into his mom with one of her friends--they were seated at the booth right next to ours! It was quite awkward, but doesn't it feel good when you know that you made the right decision!?

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  5. Our lives are so simliar it's almost scary! Not only did I just get "somewhat" closure from an ex I dated in high school (yes, three years ago), but my little brother just graduated 5th grade!

    I'm sure your current beach trip will get your mind off of anything ex related!

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  6. Hi! I was just starting to read your blog. You are darling, Glad you moved on, his loss :)

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