This past weekend Nick and I were away in the mountains and were shocked when we came to the realization that we’re so close to the day that we have been planning and looking forward to for over nine months. This season of life has been so exciting and we have really enjoyed planning and making memories together during our engagement. With only a month and a half left until our wedding, I thought it would be fun to share the wedding traditions we’re keeping and which ones we are ditching for today’s Wedding Wednesday post!
Wedding traditions vary greatly depending on who you talk to. We knew a lot of the more general traditions, but when we were looking through one of our wedding planners, we realized we weren’t aware of a lot of the “southern” traditions. Southern wedding traditions seem to vary from state to state, but it was fun to learn about new ones. Below are the wedding traditions we plan to include (as well as they ones we are ditching!)
WEDDING TRADITIONS WE ARE KEEPING
GROOM’S CAKE | We are having a groom’s cake (and I am already in the works of designing it with our baker!) Traditionally it’s displayed and served at the wedding, however since we will have a wedding cake and cupcakes we will be serving ours at our rehearsal dinner! This way the groom’s cake gets its time to shine, too! 🙂
NO FIRST LOOK VS. FIRST LOOK | Traditionally, the bride and groom see each other for the first time when she walks down the aisle. In recent years, a first look has become a new tradition that many couples tend to do. I was kind of on the fence on if I wanted a first look or not. Would it likely help ease my nerves and it would be convenient for the wedding day timeline & photos? Yes. However, Nick and I had a conversation about it and he was just really against a first look. He told me that he wants the first time he sees me to be when the doors open and I walk down the aisle. I mean, how was I gonna complain about that sentiment?!? I actually loved that he spoke up about it and his reasoning behind it made all the sense in the world to me, so we are choosing to NOT do a first look. Will I probably be a crying mess? Definitely. Will seeing him and his reaction when the doors to the church open be a moment we both remember and cherish forever? Absolutely.
TRADITIONAL VOWS VS. WRITTEN VOWS | When we first got engaged I thought for sure that we would write our own vows and recite them to each other in front of our closest friends & family on our wedding day. After thinking on it for a few months, going to pre-marital counseling at our church, and talking about our ceremony in more detail with our pastor, I did a total 180. If you know me in real life, then you know I am a crier. I cannot tell you how many times I have cried (happy tears!) throughout this wedding planning process. When it came time to discuss if we would write our own vows or use more traditional vows we both agreed that we wanted to go the traditional route. Emotions are going to be running high on our big day. Having the added stress of writing (and saying!) the right thing all while attempting to keep it together and not turn into a giant cry baby in front of 150 people just seemed too much. I think it’s a very personal decision and I think we made the right one.
THE UNITY CANDLE | This was one tradition that we really wanted to be part of our wedding ceremony. Both of our moms will light one of the single candles before the ceremony. After saying our vows, Nick and I will light the center candle together to symbolize our families coming together as one.
FIRST DANCES | We will be doing a first dance, a father-daughter dance, and a mother-son dance! These are traditions that we know our parents will remember for years to come! To be honest, I’m a bit nervous about dancing in front of so many people haha… guess I need to get over that.
SOMETHING OLD, SOMETHING NEW, SOMETHING BORROWED, AND SOMETHING BLUE | This is one of those traditions that I couldn’t not do because it really is so special! I have my something old, something new, and something blue… just need to figure out my something borrowed! I’m waiting to share those until after the big day! 🙂
WEDDING TRADITIONS WE ARE DITCHING!
GARTER TOSS & BOUQUET TOSS | I personally don’t like the idea of singling out our single friends (there actually aren’t that many “single” people attending our wedding) for this wedding tradition. We are choosing to not have a garter toss (I find this SO awkward haha!) or bouquet toss. Instead, we plan on spending more time with our guests and soaking in every moment with them!
BURYING THE BOURBON | This tradition derives from the South. They say if you bury an unopened bottle of bourbon as close as you can to where you will say your vows then it won’t rain on your wedding day. Tradition calls for you to do it exactly one month before your wedding day. After the ceremony you’re supposed to dig it up & drink it with your wedding party! While Nick and I love a good bottle of bourbon, we aren’t technically allowed to dig/bury anything on church property. We thought about burying it close by, however, since we won’t have any photos of the two of us until the ceremony/after, we chose to forgo this tradition! We have friends who have done it and the photos turn out super cute though!
VEIL VS. NO VEIL | Wearing a veil is an age old tradition and one that many brides still do to this day! When I pictured myself as a bride, I thought I would 100% wear a veil. I wanted a long chapel length veil. However, that all changed when I chose my dress. I just couldn’t see my dress with a veil. So… instead of attempting to make it work, I’m opting to not wear a veil! I’m looking at it as one less thing to worry about on our wedding day!
I would love to hear of the wedding traditions you chose to keep or ditch on your wedding day! Thanks so much for stopping by! xo