30 Days Away From Our Wedding Day (+ a He Said/She Said Q&A!)

You guys!!! We are officially thirty days out from our wedding day. THIRTY DAYS! ONE MONTH! FOUR WEEKS! … Can you tell I’m excited?! It’s hard to believe that we are so close to one of the best days of our lives! While we still have quite a bit to do, we are really trying to soak in these next thirty days left of being engaged and really prepare for our wedding day and our marriage!

Today I thought it would be fun to do a little “he said/she said” type of post with Nick and each answer some wedding related questions! It’s been so fun to document our wedding planning process & get a little more personal on here with you guys!

P.S. Nick and I answered our questions separately so we didn’t see each others answers! Nick sent me his last night so I could put them in the post and y’all I cried… like pretty hard (which is the story of my life these days haha!) Anyways, we both really enjoyed answering these & are excited to share these with y’all today!

How did you first meet? 

Nick: In high school, outside of math class.  Her class was across the hall from mine, and I remember thinking “man, she’s cute.”  Fortunately, I knew her teacher, so I would find any opportunity to go into her classroom to flirt it up with the cute blonde girl.  Twelve years later, I’m marrying her – I’d count that as a win.

Emily: We met back in 2004 at Grimsley High School. I had just moved to Greensboro the summer before starting high school and got put in math class for my first period. Nick knew my math teacher and would always pop into my class & chat with her before the bell rang. He immediately caught my eye and his sense of humor piqued my interest. He came into my math class almost every day for that semester and slowly we started talking more and more until we made things “official.” I didn’t like math, but I looked forward to first period every day! I still don’t like math, but I guess I can thank Mrs. Whiting for introducing us!

When/How did you first fall in love with your significant other?

Nick: That’s a tough one – when you’re in high school and you’re really into someone, you probably fall in love several times a day.  The one moment that has always stuck out would be our first Christmas together.  In the mix of gifts we got for one another, we actually ended up getting each other the exact same gift – a giant box of tropical skittles.  We both really loved tropical skittles and I thought it would be really funny if I got her a giant box for Christmas.  Apparently she thought the same thing.  For some reason this has been in the back of my mind since 2005.  it’s the little things in life.

Emily: Nick and I have such a history together that it’s hard to pinpoint just one moment that made me fall in love with him. Nick was my first “real” boyfriend, so I’m sure I fell in love with him over the smallest things haha (#younglove). I think what really made me fall in love with him was the way he treated me and the way he treated my family. I am super close with my family so seeing him interact with my family and my siblings really made my heart happy. One moment that I remember fondly was when my sister, Logan, who was five at the time, was on his shoulders and he was playing with her. She was giggling like crazy and accidentally dropped her gum in his hair. He never once got mad or impatient, instead he laughed it off while my mom had to put peanut butter in his hair to get it out (all while I was probably laughing uncontrollably!) This story still comes up from time to time!

What’s the most memorable date you’ve had?

Nick: There are too many to tell.  Sounds like a cop out, but fact is, we went on our first date in 2005.  We have had dates at almost every stage in our lives.  At the end of the day, I can sit and think of at least 20 times that all meant something important to me, to us, to our relationship.  Everything we have done, good or bad, has built the foundation to where we are now.
Emily: Over the years there have been plenty of dates, many of which were memorable, but the most memorable one in recent years was our second, first date. When Nick and I reconnected in 2015, we made plans to go to GIA (one of my favorite wine bars) for drinks. We both worked late that day, so we decided to meet each other there. I remember being so incredibly nervous as I pulled in. I had butterflies and a million questions in my head. Were things going to be weird? Would we feel as comfortable together as we used to? Does this outfit look ok?  I remember walking in and seeing him at a table and immediately feeling at ease. We spent almost five hours just chatting, catching up, and enjoying each others company…so much that we closed the bar down! I remember leaving that night feeling so incredibly happy, at ease, and confident that reconnecting with Nick was meant to be.

What quality do you most admire about the other?

Nick: Her determination. Emily always wants to succeed in everything she does, no matter what.

Emily: I really admire Nick’s sense of humor. Life can be hard and when those tough moments arise, Nick does a great job of making a situation seem a little less major by making me laugh.  I have a tendency to sometimes take things too seriously or worry too much and he always brings me back to reality with a laugh. We have a similar sense of humor, so he always knows just what to say. I can’t tell you how many times we laugh throughout the day.

What was the best engagement present? What was the weirdest?

Nick: Best gift – a toaster.  So strange, but I really hate toaster ovens.  Bet you didn’t know a toaster would make me so happy.  Weirdest – a recipe for ice.  Yup, Steph Jones gave us a recipe for ice.  I know we weren’t great students, but damn, we can make ice!
Emily: *I happen to love our toaster oven. But… love is about compromise, even on the smallest things haha* As simple as it sounds: a bottle of wine. I know you’re probably thinking “Ok, you can buy that yourself!” But a friend of ours gave us a bottle of wine at our engagement party and the bottle had a photo from our engagement on it & the date we’re getting married. It was a really thoughtful gift. We plan to open the bottle on our wedding day as a way to celebrate! As for the weirdest, I’d have to agree with Nick’s answer. We had a “Stock the Kitchen” couples shower so all of the gifts included a recipe card & the items to make it (i.e. mixing bowls, measuring cups, pans, etc.) When we got to his sister Stephanie’s gift we both had a major laugh over it… A sense of humor runs in the Wilkinson family!

How did you celebrate your bachelor/bachelorette party?

Nick: My best friends and I went down to a family beach house in Sunset Beach, NC.  I probably can’t share additional details.
Emily: I celebrated my bachelorette party in Savannah/Tybee Island, Georgia with my girlfriends! We had a really fun time and brought back a lot of memories. Jenn, want some frosé?! I’ll leave it at that haha!

How would you describe the style of your wedding?

Nick: Very us.

Emily: I would say our wedding style is very us. When we initially starting planning and chatting details, we knew we wanted our wedding to feel like us. We went on a few venue tours and none of them felt like “us.” When we finally toured our venue we immediately knew it was the one. We used three words to describe how we wanted our wedding to feel and those words were romantic, intimate, and welcoming. Our venue checks all of those boxes.

What has been the most fun detail of your wedding to plan?

Nick: The overall feel and flow of our wedding.  Not necessarily a detail, but planning the overall wedding in a way for all of our guests to enjoy has been a blast.  It’ll be a great time.

Emily: To be honest, I’ve enjoyed it all. I know so many brides talk about it being stressful, but truthfully, it hasn’t been too stressful at all. I’ve loved planning the little details that show us as a couple and what we enjoy. I also loved our food & wine tasting… I mean who doesn’t love trying 6 different dishes and wines?!?

What’s been the most difficult detail of your wedding to plan?

Nick:  I honestly have never heard the term “soft seating” prior to getting engaged.  Now I hear it weekly.  Not that I’m against “soft seating” but, come on.  We will have soft seating.  You’re welcome, wedding guests.  

Emily: Like I said above there hasn’t really been a “hard” part, but I think dealing with everyones opinions has been a bit tricky. Everyone has a “want” or a “need” and it’s easy to lose track of making it about you and your fiancé because you’re wanting to appease everyone. There have been times when we’ve had to remember that this day is about us.

Do you have any unique wedding details?

Nick: See above.  Soft seating.  Take a load off and enjoy the soft seating.  In all seriousness, I think there will be several unique surprises, mainly to me.
Emily: We do have a few unique details… but I don’t want to spoil them for our guests! Nothing crazy or over the top though! Some are sentimental and some are aesthetically pleasing, that’s all I’ll say.

What moment of your wedding day are you most anticipating?

Nick: Seeing Emily for the first time as the doors open in the Sanctuary. How could I say anything else?  Nothing else would even begin to compare.

Emily: Nick and I aren’t doing a first look, so I am really anticipating the doors to the church opening up and seeing him for the first time on our wedding day. This is a moment that I daydream about on a daily basis. And every single time I tear up. I absolutely cannot wait to see Nick waiting for me at the end of the aisle.

What are you most excited for on your wedding day?

Nick: Marrying the girl of my dreams.  Easy.

Emily: First and foremost, I am excited to marry the love of my life in front of our closest friends and family. I’m also really excited to have so many people from our different walks of life together in one room to celebrate with us! Everyone that we invited has not only supported us as a couple, but have been there for us in many, many ways over the years.

What are you most nervous about on your wedding day?

Nick: Not really anything – there is something calming about spending the rest of your life with the one person you truly love.  Everything else will fall into place.
Emily: 
While I’m beyond excited for our wedding day, I would be lying if I said I wasn’t nervous. I think I’m most nervous about crying. I am a super emotional person as it is, add in one of the biggest, most emotional days of your life, and I’m sure I’m going to be a puddle of tears all day haha. My parents (and a few of my friends) are the same way… so if they start crying, I know I’m going to! I’m also a bit nervous to be the center of attention. I don’t like all eyes on me, so I’m kind of nervous about walking down the aisle and for our first dance. Nick would probably say that’s because I suck at dancing… *eye roll*  

What advice would you give to other engaged couples who are planning a wedding?

Nick: Come up with a list of things that you want out of your wedding, then come up with a list of things you would like out of a wedding if you were a guest.  Everyone always says that you won’t remember your wedding day, so you might as well make it a fun mix for the people that will remember.  Then prioritize and don’t be afraid to fight for what you want.  

Emily: My first piece of advice to engaged couples would be to soak it all in. Everyone says time flies and they are so right. The next piece of advice would be to really remember what matters. At the end of the day, it’s not about the little details, it’s about you two as a couple, and making the day memorable. Oh and my last piece of advice would be to stay away from Pinterest. Seriously. Yes, those weddings are stunning, but many people (especially brides) don’t realize that those photos are from styled shoots or weddings with virtually no budget. They can easily give you unrealistic expectations.

What are you looking forward to as newlyweds?

Nick: Starting new traditions together.

Emily: I’m really excited about starting our own family traditions. We both have traditions on both sides of our family that we’re excited to incorporate, but I’m looking forward to creating new traditions with each other too.

Thoughts on how you will feel when it’s over?

Nick: Hopefully I’ll be able to sleep again.  Doubtful, but I’m optimistic.  Not that this process has been incredibly stressful, but there are a lot of details that go into planning a wedding.  Maybe that should be my advice to other engaged couples.  Or maybe I’m the only one that didn’t know how many details went into a wedding.

Emily: Relieved? Sad? Excited? I’m really not sure how I will feel. I don’t think I’ll be happy that it’s over, but it will be nice to have that part of my life back again. It’s exhausting planning a wedding, working full-time, and trying to soak in every moment with your fiancé. I’ve also heard brides say that they miss that part of their life, so maybe I will end up missing it too!

One thing you’re looking forward to in marriage?

Nick: Starting a new life together.  We’ve had such an interesting history together, so it will be incredible to start this new chapter in our lives as husband and wife.

Emily: I’m really looking forward to growing together as a married couple. We’ve been through so many different stages of life together and those moments have really helped us to grow as individuals and as a couple. No couple is perfect and relationships require work,  so I’m excited to take on married life together and everything that comes along with it!

What is one thing you would like your fiancé to know at 30 days out from being married?  

Yup, I wrote my own question into this survey.  Emily – I am beyond happy and excited and honored to be able to spend the rest of my life with you.  You have been the girl of my dreams for longer than you know and being able to call myself your husband will be the greatest privilege of my life.  You are everything I have ever wanted, and more than I probably deserve.  I love you so much and cannot believe that you and I will be starting a whole new chapter together in 30 days.  I love you, munchkin.  

Now do you see what I cried when I got his answers?!? I mean, how could I not?  What a freakin’ sweetheart!!! I absolutely cannot wait to marry this man and have the joy of calling him my husband in a month. I am grateful beyond words to be able to live my life with him. He makes me happier than I could ever describe and we build each other up daily.

I can’t wait to share our wedding and our life with you all! Thank you for coming back and being so sweet and encouraging daily. It means more than you know! XO

photos by Alexa’s Photography

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16 Comments

  1. Jenn wrote:

    Well, I guess I’m one of those people that are gonna make you cry on your wedding day because it’s 7am and I’m crying reading this!!! Love y’all and your love so much. I even remember your second first date with Nick!!!! You had just spilled all of the details to me and I remember how excited/nervous you were! So excited we’re 30 days away!!! I think you’ve done an incredible job planning and soaking it up – you’re so level headed with decisions. Guess that was nick’s influence on you haha 😉 love you, Em!!!

    And the frosé…. yeah….

    Posted 9.27.17 Reply
  2. Rach wrote:

    This is so exciting that you are 30 days away! Happy wedding month! This post was really fun to read. It is always so interesting to hear things from a guy’s point of view! I’m with you guys and the one of the best things about being married is starting our own traditions!

    http://www.rdsobsessions.com

    Posted 9.27.17 Reply
  3. okay so I definitely teared up reading this post and I have only met Nick once! So excited for you guys – your love is SO special!!! Congrats again!!

    xx,
    Lauren
    Lauren Elyce

    Posted 9.27.17 Reply
  4. Okay, now I’m tearing up!! The last question, I can’t. How stinkin’ sweet and cute!! So happy for you two, and cannot wait for the photos. Best wishes with the final prep!! Xo

    Kristyn

    Posted 9.27.17 Reply
  5. What a sweet Q&A, especially the last question! Jess at Just Jess

    Posted 9.27.17 Reply
  6. Happy 30 days away! this post really brought tears and some laughs! I love how similar some of your answers are, especially with not knowing what his answers were. I love these styles of posts, especially because you can really get to know you!

    Posted 9.27.17 Reply
  7. Mariah wrote:

    This was so adorable to read! You two are so cute! I love it.

    http://moosmusing.com

    Posted 9.27.17 Reply
  8. Aww I loved reading this one! Serious couple goals!!

    Posted 9.27.17 Reply
  9. Jessica wrote:

    This is so sweet and so adorable!
    xo Jessica
    http://www.whatsfordinneresq.com

    Posted 9.27.17 Reply
  10. Ruth Ridley wrote:

    I always love hearing from the guy’s point of view!! So excited for you two!!

    Posted 9.28.17 Reply
  11. Annie wrote:

    This post is adorable and well written. Good luck with the finishing touches!

    Posted 9.29.17 Reply
  12. Hannah wrote:

    Awww this is so so sweet! Can’t wait to see pictures from the wedding:)

    xoxo, Hannah

    Posted 10.2.17 Reply
  13. Lauren wrote:

    I’m seriously SO happy for you. Remember when we used to talk on the phone about your love life and what was going on?! I remember sitting in the parking lot at UM just talking everything out with you! So happy you found your soulmate <3

    Posted 10.2.17 Reply
  14. Liz wrote:

    Aw this is so sweet! So excited for you!

    Liz
    http://Www.lizzieinlace.com

    Posted 10.2.17 Reply
  15. Annette wrote:

    So exciting! Enjoy these last days before the big day. It’s going to be amazing!

    Posted 10.5.17 Reply
  16. Nina wrote:

    Omg so exciting! Cant wait to see wedding photos!

    Xo, Nina
    Law of Fashion Blog

    Posted 10.6.17 Reply

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